1. A man has to feel needed in a relationship without you being needy.
Men are attracted to happy, independent women.
Men are irresistibly drawn towards a woman who doesn’t need a man to make her happy, who isn’t looking for a man’s approval to define her worth, who has a passionate, purposeful life of her own, and yet also deeply values, cherishes and appreciates a man’s love in her life For a man to be deeply attracted to you – emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually — he needs to feel good about you.
2. Men love women that understand their instinctive desire to protect and provide.
Men have a strong need to protect and provide, and these needs are largely tied to the male identity. When you recognize these needs and present opportunities to a man to protect and provide, you can effortlessly tug at his heartstrings.
Just start with a simple “I need your help” or “Can I ask you a favor?” and watch how he opens up to you.
3. Men see a woman’s physical beauty as only part of the package and not as the entire package.
Women often tend to overestimate the importance of physical beauty and looks in attracting men but what sustain a man’s interest over the long term is not a woman’s physical beauty, but her character and personality.
In an interesting study, researchers found that it is possible to influence your partner’s perception of your physical attractiveness by your character and personality. A woman who participated in this study received a 3.25 (below average) rating during the first day of the class.
However the same woman was rated 7.00 (very good) by the last day of the class. She was able to achieve this result through her personality and character.
4. Men love to pursue women that challenge them to chase without playing games.
Men are, by nature, hunters they love to pursue and experience the thrill of the chase.
Having said that, men have a fear of rejection. So what they are essentially looking for is a sign that you are interested, open to being approached, and willing to give them a chance.
At the same time, men don’t want a woman that is too interested too soon because, then they are denied the opportunity to woo, court and charm her As a woman, what you need to do is to add a touch of mystery, uncertainty and adventure to encourage him to actively pursue you and make the overall experience fun.
You may be wondering if I am advocating playing hard to get. No — that’s not what I am talking about, playing hard to get is like dieting. When you diet, you may initially lose a few pounds and get excited.
But it’s not long before you get sick and tired of the diet and start gaining back the lost pounds and end up gaining even more weight Playing hard to get works just like that. It can give you temporary results for a while before the real trouble begins.
As the quote goes, “Why play hard to get, when you can play hard to forget.” (Note playing hard to get doesn’t apply to all men.)
5. Men are attracted to women that can accept their love.
A common mistake that many women make is to believe in the equation that: Showing more love to a man equals getting more love from him, And that’s not necessarily true.
In fact, showing too much love can kill attraction and make a man lose interest in you, While most women are good at giving love, they are terrible when it comes to accepting love.
When women receive compliments, they often brush them off or minimize them, or try to find a way to reciprocate the compliment For a man, it feels like you are turning down his love and rejecting him, What you need to do instead is to simply smile and say, “Thank you” when he praises you or gives you a compliment.
6. A man has to be completely convinced that you have his best interests at heart.
In other words, he needs to able to trust you, When I say trust, I am not just talking about fidelity; I am talking about something much deeper. You probably already know that men generally struggle with feelings and emotions, From a very young age, men are taught that showing emotions and sharing feelings are signs of weakness, They are conditioned to be tough, competitive and independent, When they don’t behave this way, they are bullied, ridiculed, shamed, ignored and looked down upon, Because of this, men suppress their feelings, hide their emotions, ignore their pain and never ask for help.
Deep down inside, men yearn to share their deepest fears and feelings, But they will only do it with a woman they can completely trust. A simple but powerful way to earn a man’s trust and get him to open up to you is by sharing your deepest fears and secrets with him first, When you are open and vulnerable with him, he will feel safe around you and in the process he will trust you. Apart from trust, a man has to feel that you recognize his uniqueness, strongly believe in him, and are his biggest cheerleader and supporter.